Ramadan is more than half done. Many of us don’t want this beautiful and blessed month to finish so quickly. With such few days left of this month, I hope that each of us can make the most of it’s final days. I hope that each of us can say with confidence, that there is at least one thing about our character that we have changed or improved. And with regards to refining our character, and purifying our soul, it’s important to establish the quality of forgiving others and seeking Allah s.w.t.’s forgiveness.
With Ramadan coming to an end, we are also approaching the end of the second ten days of this month, the days that bring Allah s.w.t.’s mercy and forgiveness. Each of us try to seek Allah s.w.t’s forgiveness in Ramadan, but we must ask ourselves whether we are seeking His mercy from our hearts? When we ask for forgiveness for our sins, are we sure that we won’t commit those sins again? Are we letting go of our past mistakes and refining our character so that we stay away from bad deeds and instead, perform righteous deeds?
In order for us to have our sins forgiven by Allah s.w.t., we must recognize and be aware of what is right and what is wrong. We must recognize that which we did wrong. We all make mistakes, and we don’t acknowledge that some are much greater sins than we think they are. Say, backbiting for example, some people do it without acknowledging that they are doing it. We have to make a promise to Allah s.w.t. and ourselves that we will not commit the same sin again. And most importantly, we must pray to and ask Allah s.w.t. to forgive us.
The Qur’an repeatedly says, Allah s.w.t. is “Ever-Forgiving.” Thus, we should never doubt that He won’t forgive us. In Surat At-Tawbah, Allah s.w.t. says, “So if you repent, that is best for you” (9:3). Repenting to Allah s.w.t. will do us good, and when we refrain from bad deeds, Allah s.w.t. will bless us in this life, and in the Hereafter in’sha’Allah.
But with that in mind, we must recognize that being merciful is a trait of Allah s.w.t., so is this not a trait we want to have in our own character?
When people upset us or make us angry, whether it is our family members, coworkers, or friends, it is important to have the courage to forgive those who have wronged us. When we forgive them, we will achieve peace, rather than being in a constant state of anger or distress. When we forgive them sincerely, we will bring them one step closer to being forgiven by Allah s.w.t.
Yes, people will lie. People will backbite. People will hurt us. But if Allah s.w.t., who is the Most Gracious and Most Merciful, can forgive us and tell us to seek His forgiveness when we commit an act that does not please Him, then we should be able to have the mercy and courage to forgive those who have displeased us. Simple as that.
So I suggest that this Ramadan, we forgive those who may have upset us, and we seek forgiveness from those who we have wronged. Asking for forgiveness is easier said that done, but if we establish the courage to do so, I know we will certainly achieve peace and Allah s.w.t.’s mercy.